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Do You Think Your Dude Needs To Be More Affectionate?

relationship troubleshooting with Renzie Baluyut.

A friend of mine messaged me on Yahoo the other day, and asked me for my opinion about what she should do with her current boyfriend.

Now this is a good friend of mine from way back, so we had the customary chit-chat and catching up before she got down to the actual problem- which took up the better part of the rest of our conversation.

The Situation:

So here’s how it goes:  My friend works in China.  She’s from the Philippines too, but her man is Indian.  They get together along just fine, but for some reason she feels like he isn’t expressive enough for her- whether vocally or physically.  So that’s her first main concern.

He does however, discuss their future as a couple.  And all his friends and family know about her.

Here’s her second concern:  her man works four hours away from where she lives.  And while they’ve been together for some time now, he doesn’t come over to her place.  Instead, he insists she come over to his part of China to hang out.

So anyway, since she always tries to get him to be more affectionate, or keeps on asking him to come over to her place instead, she’s beginning to think she’s demanding, needy and clingy.  And this drives her crazy because she knows she’s not an overly demanding, needy or clingy girlfriend, based on her past relationships.

So what is she supposed to do about her whole situation?  What do I think about the whole thing? Continue reading “Do You Think Your Dude Needs To Be More Affectionate?”

Three Things a Couple Should Never Fight About | Relationship Advice

relationship advice with Renzie Baluyut.

A friend and I were having coffee the other night, and she was opening up the fact that, while her relationship with her current boyfriend is generally alright, they usually end up quarreling.  This usually happens when she has to go out of town, attend to some clients, or work on a photo shoot.

Now, as far as relationships go, I think I have a fairly good idea of what works and what doesn’t.  While I am enjoying a very happy eight-year love affair with my girlfriend/fiancee, my current view on relationships has been shaped by a number of ex-girlfriends, numerous dates both successful and disastrous, as well as stories from other friends.

So here’s what I think: if there’s anything you, as a couple, shouldn’t be fighting about, it would have to be these three things:

1.  Work,
2.  Friends,
3.  and Money

Let’s get into all three in greater detail, shall we? Continue reading “Three Things a Couple Should Never Fight About | Relationship Advice”